Sentuhan Bayu : Well, I believe this is the very question most parents asked. But I also strongly believe in just follow your instinct. You're the parents & you know your child best. Each & every child is unique. Some requires some spanking over reasoning. Some, a simple reason will do & zero spanking required. And as the child grow older, parents will notice they need to approach discipline in different manner. I must emphasize that PARENTS must be OBSERVANT. No excuse in this. And, always incorporate religious routines cause it does give an impact to the child. You might ask why, but through my observation of people around me, regardles of what religion they are, parents with strict or diligent in incorporating religious routine in their daily life, you could see their child are much more disciplined, caring, respectful & obedient.
Ok Here's are other input from other Parents
22 February 2010
Set an example
Today, my eldest son decided to mash up his biscuits into the back seat of the car. He's the oldest one so everybody watches him. The other children want to know what happens next when you do something like that. So when we got to school he had to ask one of the cleaning ladies to borrow her broom and then he had to sweep out the entire backseat of my car. As a result, he was 20 minutes late for school. He really loves school so any punishment like that, he would remember. I'm pretty strict when it comes to discipline because everybody's watching each other. They want to know what they can get away with. They know if they mess up they have to clean it up right away; it can't wait. – Melissa Lozano, mother of four children from 14 months to 5 ½ years
Time-out
We practise a time-out policy. Our son has to sit at a designated corner of the house for 1/2 to one hour. During that time, he has time to think about what he has done. After the time-out, we will talk to him and listen to his reasons for his behaviour and he will listen to our explanation for why he was punished. In conclusion, listening and communicating are the key indicators of discipline. - Norasikin Kamis, mother of one boy aged 13
Be rigid as she grows up
This is indeed a tough question to tackle as both my hubby and I have differing views on how to discipline our 3 1/2-year-old daughter. My hubby is of the “old school” and the cane is needed to discipline our child. On the other hand, I do not believe in spanking her but lately I am also thinking that at times I need to spank her bottom when she goes overboard. Raising my voice and reasoning with her does not seem to work all the time. There are times when we need to show our child who is the parent. Our daughter is quite hot-tempered and adamant and will try to get her way most times but now that she is going to turn four in March my hubby and I are in agreement that we have to be more rigid with our daughter as we honestly do not want her to be a brat. We want our daughter to grow up respecting us and if we can instil that in her she will respect everyone else out there. We have a responsibility to raise our child and we want her to be well-mannered and caring. I want my little girl to grow up knowing that her parents were strict with her for a good reason and when she looks back she will realise how important it was for her to have endured the rigidness so that she will be a better individual. - Elma Juliet Chan, mother of two aged nine months and three years plus
