Sentuhan Bayu : Well, I believe this is the very question most parents asked. But I also strongly believe in just follow your instinct. You're the parents & you know your child best. Each & every child is unique. Some requires some spanking over reasoning. Some, a simple reason will do & zero spanking required. And as the child grow older, parents will notice they need to approach discipline in different manner. I must emphasize that PARENTS must be OBSERVANT. No excuse in this. And, always incorporate religious routines cause it does give an impact to the child. You might ask why, but through my observation of people around me, regardles of what religion they are, parents with strict or diligent in incorporating religious routine in their daily life, you could see their child are much more disciplined, caring, respectful & obedient.